Andrew Marvell, the author of the poem “To His Coy Mistress,” wrote the poem with the intention of conveying the idea of ​​carpe diem. Depending on the type and gender of the person, this could be considered carpe diem or simply an offensive joke. A male might agree with Marvell's concept that it is better to lose your virginity sooner rather than later because there is no reason to wait, while a female would definitely disagree with this line of thinking. Rather they would find it disgusting and inappropriate. One of the critics of the poem, Bernard Duyfhuizen, took the female point of view to give a different reading of the poem. In his criticism Duyfhuizen may fall victim to a certain "political correctness", but for the most part his idea that the poem is offensive to women and something they would most likely have heard before is correct. He looked at the disturbing and offensive images and simply looked at the meaning behind the poem. If all the disturbing images were put aside, many of the male critics and even readers might agree that this is an example of carpe diem, while many women would strongly disagree. However, for some this poem could be considered an example of carpe diem because it is part of their personal definition. I don't think Duyfhuizen is ignoring the theme of carpe diem, rather he is trying to show how not everyone would agree with that theme because not everyone has the same definition of carpe diem. I have a very different understanding of carpe diem than the person sitting next to me in class says. Classifying something as carpe diem is very difficult simply because not everyone has the same concept and this is where... middle of the paper... of the poem I think presents a very convincing argument. He's accurate when he says "he's heard this kind of joke before." Many women simply presented it in a very different way, much less rude and uncouth than Marvell's and much more like Robert Herrick's poetry. By saying that the poem is offensive due to its disgusting imagery, many people think that Duyfhuizen is taking away from the carpe diem theme that Marvell presented in the poem, however, this is not the case. He's just presenting the idea that not everyone will think this is an example of carpe diem, and he's right. Many women would not think that this embodies the idea of ​​carpe diem, but rather serves as a crude attempt to meet a girl. No matter what century we are in, disturbing images like these will never be found attractive enough by a woman to pique her interest.