This sends a powerful message that you mean what you say and you don't have to stand there very long, just a minute or two. While you wait, praise each step in the right direction; no matter how small it seems. Arguing and lecturing your child never seems to work, try giving positive feedback instead. In addition to praising, be a good listener yourself. This will show them that you understand that they may not want to move on to another business. When they see you doing these things yourself, they will be more likely to imitate those actions. Another helpful tip for getting your child to listen is to remember not to get distracted until your child cooperates. If your child leaves, don't follow him, you don't want him to think he's in charge. Do your business and wait for them to come out. They'll start talking about something else and you say, "I'd be happy to talk about it after you do what I told you." Don't lose patience while you wait. This will only make you start screaming and your child will distract you. Try leaving the room to calm down and return to the room when you do. I believe these methods for improving listening skills with children will help many families who have difficulty getting their children to do things. These are effective skills that have actually worked with other families. I think when I'm older and have a family of my own, I'll use them