The Adversities of Avoiding an Abusive Relationship A relationship offers refuge, love, and trust between two partners, but every relationship has flaws that can permanently taint the two individuals and their bond. A serious conflict that occurs in many relationships is domestic abuse. It is the control that the partner of an intimate relationship, who is usually the male in a heterosexual relationship, tries to exert on the woman with methods such as physical, verbal and sexual abuse (Violence and Domestic Abuse). However, there are many cases where women should stay in an abusive relationship rather than avoid it due to factors revolving around society's opinions. In the novels A Thousand Splendid Suns written by Khaled Hosseini and Black and Blue written by Anna Quindlen, there are characters who experience domestic abuse in their marriages which forces them to act on the difficult decision of leaving the abusive relationship only to face difficulties such as survival and ability to deal with children. Even though their toxic relationships are over, there is still disorder in these women's lives, thus causing the ultimate destruction that they themselves created by ending the relationship. It is clear that women should endure the abusive relationship because the complications they face after leaving are worse than the situation they were in when they were involved in the abusive relationship. For starters, many women who leave an abusive relationship are more vulnerable to extreme levels of danger than when they were with their abusive partner, thus minimizing their chances of survival and jeopardizing their safety. In A Thousand Splendid Suns, Mariam and Laila, both married to Rasheed, try to elope with...... middle of paper......09 December 2013..Hosseini, Khaled. A Thousand Splendid Suns. New York: Riverhead, 2007. Print."'Killing You Daily'" 'Killing You Daily': Abuse survivor who killed her abuser tells her story | OnCentral. Np, nd Web. December 9, 2013..Quindlen, Anna. Black and blue. New York: Random House, 1998. Print."Violence Against Women and Girls." Violence against women and girls. Canadian Research Institute for the Advancement of Women, nd Web. 09 December 2013.."Why women stay in abusive relationships." Employee assistance. Np, nd Web. 09 December. 2013..